Sister pains...

So my sister has decided that she's turning her back totally on me and my mum and now she's got her fantastic boyfriend (who is nice but doesn't have a job or anything... Like all of them) she's going to get her own flat one way or the other. Earlier this week she had a viewing for a council flat and today a private one, both as far away from Eggbuckland as she can get.

You might think good for her, unfortunately maybe not so good for my niece and NOT so good for her when she finds us unwelcoming in the future.

Put it this way...

She met this guy (again he's lovely but still) on a Friday, by the Sunday he was in our house and has hardly left since then. She's become really grumpy and refuses to talk to me or my mum when we are home to the point that we've been banished upstairs completely. The only time she talks to us is when she wants something or is moaning about college. She eats the food my mum buys for everyone has made the whole downstairs STINK of stale smoke, keeps her daughter upstairs playing so her and her partner can watch whatever they want and do whatever they want, uses the internet without paying for it any more and is now just not telling my mum anything.

I think my mum would be happy for her if she got her own place but she doesn't want her walking out the door one day and not coming back without any warning. My mum suffers from depression and that is what my middle sister did and she ended up dead.

No that isn't dramatic it is just stating the facts, she ran away from my nans (she's already refused to come home) to live with her boyfriend and a few years later we got a knock on the door to tell us she was dead.

That won't happen with Catherine, she isn't that dim, but she hasn't thought things through and she doesn't want me or my mum spoiling this imaginary wonderful life she's going to have when she moves out.

She won't want to realize that she'll have to buy all her food, all Christy's pack lunches and all the food that her boyfriends (hopefully her apartment will come with a revolving door) eat. She will have to pay for a new computer or else make her notebook work. She'll have to pay for internet, heating, gas, phone line, TV license, council tax, water rates etc....

Its alright she gives my mum about £20 a week if my mum remembers but she'll have so much more she'll have to spend out on.

Also without my mum....

She'll have to make sure Christy is at school every day on time, picked up on time, Barne Barton is too far for my mum who is meant to be a full time carer for my nan to travel so whether she has to be late at college or not she'll have to get her, or else pay out for morning and after school clubs.

She won't have my mum to bully into taking Christy when she wants to go out drinking or quickly go out to see her friends.

She won't have my mum reminding her to clean Christy's finger nails every day.

She won't have my mum to look after Christy at 2am when she's had a bad dream and she's too tired to look after her.

She won't have me to do the many things she asks me to do online.

And the way she's gone about it my mum won't want to help her out either. Why would she? She's acted weird all week, the day before she had her viewing earlier this week was the day she told my mum about it and she wouldn't have told my mum about the private viewing today if it hadn't been for the fact she's stupid enough to think my cousin would be guarantor for her.

Its gone from everyone trying to work together and us all helping her as much as she needs to her turning her back on us, never speaking to us even if we're talking to her but taking it for granted we'll look after Christy.

It is purely because she's got a friend (now with three children) who had her own house (council) and then found a guy (father to the last daughter who was born this week) who moved in within a week and now they are looking for a place together. I think she likes this guy so much that is what she wants to do. The problem being the guy her friend found HAS A JOB! A decent paying one. She's now off of many of her benefits and still gets more than my sister will because she gets benefits for THREE kids.

My sister seems to think that she needs to be out before Christmas, my mum said she'd help her move out (kicking her out basically) in February. Why? Because me and my mum will have to pay bedroom tax and we don't have the money for it. Not only that but if she moves half way across Plymouth from us when is she planning on bringing Christy here for presents?

My mum doesn't want anything bad happening to my niece but as my sister is becoming more childish about the whole situation the more upset my mum is about it all.

I want her to move out and I want her to fail (a bit) so that she grows up and THEN can do it right. I hate that she had a kid, got a free ride because of that and now will get a flat/house because of it. Nothing bad HAS happened to her and she lives in a bubble with her other friends who have moved out but because they have more than one kid get more money then her do live in this nothing will go wrong bubble.

I want her to get a grip, something she won't do here and something she won't do if things don't fail.

Its stressing my mum out not only for the reason's I've stated but because if she just walks out and doesn't take everything she owns we'll be in a house, paying bedroom tax we can't afford with all her stuff STILL blocking the house up. When she goes so much will disappear that we can do up the house (I'm trying to be very positive about the bedroom tax) but my mum can't help but feeling that we'll be made homeless after not being able to pay the bedroom tax and not being "important" enough for help together.

Ahhh well. Just some ramblings.